Guest blog from Carol Ritter of CarolTalks.com
Not everything is rosy in running your own small business. Stuff happens whether you are prepared or not. Dr. Phil just wrote a new book, “New Rules for Winning in the New World”. Winning, remember just a few short months ago Charlie Sheen coined the word “winning” in order to tell the world he was in charge and always ahead of the next press release or rag magazine. Dr. Phil states, “Success is created, and, just as importantly, once obtained, it must be managed and protected. I didn’t see a single success story in which the person at the center, the hero, the victor, didn’t come under some attack at some point. You’ve heard the saying “It’s lonely at the top,” and it’s true”.
In the game of life, being able to identify evil can and can put you in a better position for success. Even those of us who have been in business for many years can be fooled by someone who isn’t exactly of upstanding character. Dr. Phil has stated his “Evil Eight” as the way to identify evil before it hits you square between the eyes. Do you know anyone with these traits?
1) Arrogant entitlement personality
2) Lack of empathy
3) No remorse/guilt
5) Thrive on drama
6) Brag about outsmarting
7) Short-term relationships
8) Live in a Fantasy World/Delusional
A friend of mine recently watched a colleague with all these traits begin to self-destruct. He will get his way or win at all costs, throwing trusted work-mates under the bus, compulsively lying and bringing his personal life drama into work. It took almost a year to identify the Evil Eight. Everything seemed “rosy” in the beginning, then you begin to question the intentions, then you have proof of the betrayal and then it’s time to say good-bye.
Statistics show, on average, it takes two years to get to know someone, because it takes that long for us to reveal our true selves to one another. If you have a collegue that exhibits even half of these traits, you may want to try this...
Begin to document everything -
Set up the black and white guidelines (example: personal stuff stays personal)
Set up weekly meetings to identify the issues and share soluntions
Let them go if they become the focus of all your employee issues
Winning does not necessarily mean you will be successful, however if you can’t identify these 8 traits and take action on it, I can see WINNING in your future!
Carol serves as a featured writer for the Home News and the Lehigh Valley Chamber Blog. Carol is an accomplished professional speaker, coach and educational consultant specializing in innovative leadership, outrageous fundraising, million dollar marketing, and building organizational alliances throughout the country. Carol’s creative leadership with bullet proof ideas for recruiting MORE MEMBERS, MORE MONEY AND TER LEADERS. www.caroltalks.com 610-442-4545 firstname.lastname@example.org Like Carol on Facebook at Caroltalks and CarolCoaches! Carol S. Ritter, Immediate Past President, National Speakers Association Philadelphia