I recently returned from the National Speakers Association Convention in Philadelphia. It’s the place where speakers go to get rejuvenated, to spend time with our peers and to get filled up emotionally and intellectually.
Something happened to me that NEVER happened to me before. An old friend invited me and a colleague to dinner. We were catching up and a gentleman came up to our table, spotted an empty chair and said, “May I have this chair?” I said sure we don’t need it. He pulled the chair out and sat down! I said, “I’m sorry but we are having dinner and he said, “So am I”. We looked at each other amazed and just couldn’t believe a stranger would do this. We already ordered, he asked for a menu and started talking. “Isn’t life tough?” “You can’t make money as a speaker in this town.” It was definitely Donnie Downer. So we decided to proceed with our dinner and just be polite. I called the waiter over to confirm that we didn’t know him and we needed separate checks. The waiter asked if we wanted him removed but by then his food arrived. He dug into his turkey club and fruit salad, listening to us and continuing with his negative babble. I guess he was harmless, maybe even lonely, but he did lack something most successful speakers have--CHARISMA.
Did you ever work with someone who everyone wants to be around and many times people wish they could be like? These people have charisma! They have the ability to build long lasting relationships, they influence the folks around them in a good way. The are really good at helping people feel better about themselves and they generally have tons of long lasting relationships.
Just because someone is remarkably charismatic doesn't mean they are successful, as a matter of fact, sometimes it means they are a great interview but a horrible performer. If you want to “Grow UR Biz”, identifying charismatic people who can perform is a must. Surround yourself with performers. The best employees are loyal, charismatic performers. The reason why? If you love being around charisma, so will your customers.
Donnie Downer didn't have charisma. I’m not sure what he had but I would be interested in knowing what stranger he will be dining with for breakfast tomorrow.
Carol serves as a featured writer for the Home News and the Lehigh Valley Chamber Blog.Carol is an accomplished professional speaker, coach and educational consultant specializing in innovative leadership, outrageous fundraising, million dollar marketing, and building organizational alliances throughout the country. Carol’s creative leadership with bullet proof ideas for recruiting MORE MEMBERS, MORE MONEY AND BETTER LEADERS. www.caroltalks.com 610-442-4545 firstname.lastname@example.org. Like Carol on Facebook at Caroltalks and CarolCoaches! Carol S. Ritter, Immediate Past President, National Speakers Association Philadelphia.