Guest blog from Carol Ritter of CarolTalks.com
I’m scared, I have a wonderful idea and I’m afraid to move forward because someone might criticize me. Maybe someone will tell me I’m nuts, or someone will work at making sure the idea doesn’t work. Is this you? I’ve worked many places over the years and there is always someone in every company who will take every opportunity to sabotage someone who has a great idea. Do you know why? Because they don’t want anyone to look better than they do, they don’t want anyone to be more successful than they are and, more than anything, they are SCARED to do anything that might be controversial. I think they might be Scardey CATS. Remember that phrase. He’s a scardey cat, she’s a scardey cat, afraid of everything. I might add that fear and low self worth is a part of their personality repertoire.
I remember working with a guy years ago who had no time for new ideas, just business as usual. He was a soft shell crab most days unless he was having bad day then he was a full blown hard shell CRAB! We all tipped-toed around him and would never ever bring up a new idea. Back then, when I was younger, I didn’t want to rock the boat. But today I might have handled him differently.
If you have a soft shell crab in your company, here are some tips at getting your point or your new idea across.
- Ask him alone first, soften the intro to the new idea
- You may want to go as far as to make him think it’s his idea
- Make sure you select a soft shell crab day to bring it up
- Start out by saying “what do you think about this?”
- If none of this works, proceed to the next level - go around him
I wish everyone was kind and gracious, but in the workplace, sometimes it’s survival of the fittest. Look in the mirror -- mirror, mirror on the wall - who’s the fairest of them all? Are you someone who plays fair, are you someone with the guts to try a new idea and are you someone who can shrug the criticism? Think about it before you approach the soft shell CRAB.
Carol serves as a featured writer for the Home News and the Lehigh Valley Chamber Blog.Carol is an accomplished professional speaker, coach and educational consultant specializing in innovative leadership, outrageous fundraising, million dollar marketing, and building organizational alliances throughout the country. Carol’s creative leadership with bullet proof ideas for recruiting MORE MEMBERS, MORE MONEY AND BETTER LEADERS. www.caroltalks.com 610-442-4545 email@example.com Like Carol on Facebook at Caroltalks and CarolCoaches! Carol S. Ritter, Immediate Past President, National Speakers Association Philadelphia
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